A Female’s Perspective on Mediocre Sex and Mind-Blowing Sex
This might be what you needed to up your game.
I discovered my clitoris by accident. I didn’t know what it was or what it looked like. All I knew was that when I cleaned myself after peeing, something felt good. One day I decided to investigate this sensation.
I laid down with my legs apart, eager to learn parts of my body that were both mysterious and shameful. I felt my way through my panties, past the labia majora, labia minora, and landed on a soft, tender tissue that was somewhat sensitive to touch. Curiously I taped on- it felt good. As I increased the pressure rhythmically, the pleasure built up till it erupted, throwing me into waves of ecstasy and pure joy. Only later would I learn that was my first orgasm.
Naturally, I expected “real sex” to be just as good. Toe-curling, euphoric, and magical… but to my disappointment, it was far from that.
“Real sex” was mediocre at best and painful at worst. I spent most sessions using visual and vocal cues to convince my partners that our sex was orgasmic, and their dick was life-changing… in short, I was a performer. I had perfected the art of pretense, and honestly, it was getting old.
Till one day, in the comfort of a girl’s night out, I brought up the subject of sexuality. The timing was perfect as everyone was relaxed, snacking on good food and sipping on wine while taking the occasional shot. You know what they say about alcohol; it loosens the tongue and drowns inhibitions.
So without thinking about it, I blurted out, “I enjoy masturbation far more than I enjoy sex.”
To which my other friend added, “yeah, in terms of pleasure most sex is mediocre and not as fun as porn stars make it out to be.”
All ten girls nodded enthusiastically, and without holding back, each one proceeded to share their story. We were all in the same boat. It was empowering and, at the same time, disheartening.
A quick Google search revealed that 75% of women don’t orgasm from intercourse alone, which means 3 out of 4 women have mediocre sex. This made us wonder, what could be the problem? It couldn’t be our genitalia, as we could easily get ourselves off.
After an open debate and a few tipsy suggestions, we concluded that maybe it’s the penis. Perhaps we need a bigger penis, one with more girth and length.
The most outspoken of us added, “I guess sexual compatibility means finding our perfect fit in a sea of penises.”
We laughed it off and ended the night by toasting to mediocre sex and many vibrators (It still makes me cringe). The following day I couldn’t shake the feeling the was more to “mediocre sex” than merely blaming the penis.
Logic reasoned that if solo sex results in orgasm but partnered sex didn’t, then perhaps the problem was the sexual script we follow during sex. Bingo!! That was indeed it. The sexual script we follow is the one we see in porn… The penis-in-vagina fucking.