Discovering Cervical Orgasms Revitalized My Sex Life

Here’s how you can have cervical orgasms yourself

Orgasms are wonderful.

But at the same time, they’re kind of weird.

When you orgasm, you reach the climax of sexual excitement. Then your body experiences strange, rhythmic muscular contractions until, suddenly, everything stops. If you’re lucky, you get to go again for another round.

What’s even weirder is the fact that there are a few different ways to go about having an orgasm.

For most women, direct clitoral stimulation is the only way to achieve orgasm. This can be done manually or with a variety of sex toys. Some of my friends can only climax with anal penetration. They can only get off, but only with a finger, toy, penis, carrot, you name it, in their butts.

Then there’s the hotly debated G-spot, that some people swear by and others insist is a myth.

Honestly, I had sex for years and was never able to climax through penetration alone. Some sources say as few as 20% of women can orgasm through penetration alone, so I figured I was in the majority of women who would always need clitoral stimulation to get off.

Until I got with my current partner and discovered the magic of cervical orgasms.

What is a Cervical Orgasm?

Healthline explains the three fundamental branches of the kinds of orgasms women can have. Gentlemen, if you’re trying to up your game, take notes.

The three branches are the clitoral orgasm, the vaginal orgasm, and the anal orgasm—each of these results from stimulation of the corresponding area.

But some have proposed more specific categories. One of them is the cervical orgasm, the orgasm that happens when the back wall of the vagina is stimulated. In other words, the cervix.

We still don’t know everything about cervical orgasms or if all women can have them.

And some women report cervical contact as being painful.

A 2000 study found that 35% of the women included in the study were capable of having cervix-only orgasms while many more women used the cervix to help them climax (while stimulating other parts of their nether regions).

A cervical orgasm is one of the best orgasms you can have. They can happen in some women when the cervix is stimulated by a penis, sex toy, or any other object that can reach the back of the vagina.

They feel quite different from other types of orgasms the cervix contains a different set of nerve endings and stimulation of it can create very different sensations.

In my experience, it’s not better, per se, but just different from clitoral orgasms and “mixed” orgasms that come from multiple types of stimulation, and the orgasms usually last longer.

The nerve endings on the cervix are extremely sensitive and can create some amazing sensations when stimulated correctly. When my partner touches them just right, it feels like a million tiny fingers are tickling and teasing me until I can’t take it anymore.

It’s also really intimate. The cervix is a place we’re very rarely touched. It feels completely novel, and this is part of the appeal.

An Enchanted Discovery

When I first discovered them it was all thanks to my boyfriend. I’d had plenty of sex before, but we have a way of wrapping our legs around one another and getting closer than I’ve ever been with anyone else, man or woman. He’s also quite long, which I didn’t think mattered, but it turns out is a major blessing.

As we were having sex, he would tap the back of my vagina, touching my cervix. This would give me a momentary electric pulse, a shock of pleasure and surprise throughout my body. But I didn’t climax at first.

It took me a while. I told him how good it felt whenever this happened but also that when too much pressure is put on the cervix, it can hurt. It took some time and a lot of communication, but eventually, we got the depth just right, and, boy, let me tell you, I’m thankful we put in the time.

It still took some time before I was finally able to get off with no clitoral stimulation whatsoever, but eventually, the unthinkable happened. I finally did it.

He started out pushing inside of me and pushed his way in at a slight angle, instead of head-on. The angle he gave me more friction along the walls of my vagina and allowed him to reach my cervix.

Holy smokes.

My eyes melted into the back of my head. I’d never felt anything quite like it. In all of my years of having sex and having assumed that I’d never reach orgasm from penetration alone, this mythical penetration-only orgasm finally felt possible.

It was a sensation I’d never experienced before and one that I didn’t know was possible.

In the past, overzealous men would always assure me that they’d take care of me whenever we’d first start talking. They promised explosive penetrative sex every time. They told me that they’d go down on me and bring me to climax “within seconds,” swinging their proverbial manhood around with words rather than actions.

But talk is cheap.

Talk doesn’t lead to orgasms.

And no one ever delivered. Not once.

But eventually, after this discovery, we’d get there — I’d finally climax without clitoral stimulation.

So how can you have cervical orgasms yourself?

If you’re by yourself, start by exploring your body. Gently push your toy into yourself as far as you can go and rub around a bit. See what kind of strokes you like, whether you like to have your cervix rubbed or poked (both can feel nice), and find what works best for you. Every vagina is different and everyone is going to have different experiences with this.

Even though this isn’t how it went for me, it might be helpful to master this part of the process before you try to teach a partner how to do it.

When you think you’re ready to make this kind of magic happen with a partner, go slow, make sure he takes his time, and show him the depth that works best for you. Try to work different angles to see which one is the easiest to reach the back of your vagina, touching your cervix. If you look each other in the eyes and communicate, you’ll eventually figure it out.

Keep in mind that I didn’t get off the first time. But we kept at it until he finally got me off.

Tears rushed outward and down along my cheeks. The emotions I felt that night were a mixture of sadness, joy, and confusion. It’s hard to explain.

You have to understand, I’d been dealing with this all my life. And just like that, it felt like I’d unlocked the secret. I felt like everything I’d believed about sex and orgasms since I was a teenager was a lie.

I felt like a hidden part of my body was being exposed to me — me! I felt like I had gone my whole life missing out on wonderful sex because I didn’t know this was even possible. And that’s why I’m here to share the good gospel with you.

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