Men, Please, Use More than One Body Part During Sex
You know which one I'm talking about...
He was pounding on me with all his might.
His dick came in and out of me, a smile on his face. In the meantime, the rest of his body was a mile away. He was, sure enough, fucking me, and seemed to be happy about it.
Me? I was bored…
“Come here a moment, please. Kiss me. Lick my neck,” I said.
To his credit, he took on my suggestions…for about 2 minutes. After that, we were back to Pounding Town. Population: 1 dick.
I couldn’t help thinking how all of this was such a waste. We could have had so much fun together, if only he had been willing to be more than just a penis.
Men, if you are reading this, for the sake of your partner, I implore you, don’t stick to what you learn in Pounding Town. It’s a lonely place where only you get to have fun.
Instead, expand your horizons, and use all of your skills. I have faith in you. Trust me; you have everything you need to be a better lover.
Here’s how.
You are your dick.
I know your dick is one of your best friends. You protect it and do your best to procure him as much fun as possible. I include it here, so you realize there’s more you can do with it than just pounding into me.
For example, you could tease me with it. Grab your dick and use it to rub my labia and my clit. Do it softly, even adding some lube if necessary. I promise I’ll like it very much.
Just stay away from my butt at the moment. I’m not ready for that conversation yet.
And, when I go down on you, let me play with it a bit. Don’t be selfish, dude! Before I use my sucking powers on you, I might want to apply some soft kisses while I look up into your eyes…or maybe lick it just with the tip of my tongue. Yes, I will eventually suck the soul out of you, but I want to toy a bit first.
So, for starters, be the lover that uses his dick for more than just pounding.
You are your hands…and your fingers.
Here we are on the bed…or the couch…or some alley. I don’t know! We are getting hot and heavy. You decide to squeeze my boobs.
That’s nice! It truly is.
A bit later, you squeeze some more. And then again, and over and over again. At this point, I start to wonder what exactly are you trying to do. Do you have some sort of milking fetish you didn’t tell me about?
Squeezing is good, but just for a little while. If you limit the use of your hands to that, then you are wasting one of the most versatile tools at your disposal.
Listen to me, please: your hands, and your fingers, can do wonders on me…all over me.
Use your fingertips to travel all over my skin. Trace my shape, feel my textures. When you reach certain areas, you’ll make me giggle. That means you have found one of my sweet spots — you would do well to memorize its location.
Use your hands to massage my butt, to give it love and care. Rub my scalp for a little while, it’ll relax me so much I might melt into your arms…there’s the risk I’ll let you do anything you want.
And, yes, of course, get your fingers inside of me. However, you must do it with care and patience, always exploring the reactions your touch brings to me. I promise I won’t lie to you. I’ll tell you exactly what feels right and what’s only bringing the wrong kind of pain.
You are your mouth.
I love your mouth. It’s not just because of your fleshy lips. Nope. It’s because it holds the potential to so much happiness. I’d hate it if it all went down the drain.
Use your lips first. Get them very close to my mouth, tease me with the promise of a kiss, and then hovered it there, just within my reach…the anticipation will kill me.
Then, yes, kiss me. But don’t just press your mouth to mine. Make sure to taste me, to find out who I really am, all of the secrets I hold inside. My tongue against your tongue should provide all of the information you need for that.
You can kiss me all over! Don’t stick just to my mouth. Kiss my face and my shoulders; my belly and my thighs. You get extra points if you softly kiss my clit.
I want to feel your mouth all over me.
Oh, and when it comes to your tongue, …this muscular organ might be small, but it’s definitely all-mighty. We’ve already established that it is crucial during kissing, but, just like your lips, it’s welcome to explore all of my body.
Lick every bit of me. Make sure to go over my neck (please!) and my breasts. When you go down on me, don’t be rude and make sure your tongue first says hello to my labia and all of my vulva, before going to my clit. You wouldn’t go into anyone’s room without first knocking at the door, right?
You are your torso and your pelvic bone.
Missionary…It has such a bad rep, doesn’t it? It’s supposed to be the lamest thing ever. Now, if you stick to using only your dick and do some mindless rubbing, then yes, it will be a tiring experience.
But what if you made it a point to be very close to me? As in, I can’t even tell where your body begins, and mine ends kind of proximity.
If we do this, there will be a few consequences.
First of all, your pelvic bone will stimulate my clit. FYI, I love that! There’s no diagram I can draw to explain just how delicious it is to have a penis inside me while my clit is being tended to.
Then, there’s your torso. Just the thought of having my lover’s torso pressing against me, his heartbeat speeding up, just like mine. His skin and his sweat blending with mine.
Did I already say I love that?
You are your words and your mind.
I like words, provided they are honest. Have conversations with me, call me, text me…don’t be too naughty, unless, of course, we both want to.
Send me messages throughout the day. Get my mind going. Tell me all the things you want to do with me and ask for suggestions. Ask me if there’s anything else I would like to try.
And, once we are in bed, don’t go silent…keep talking to me. Tell me how nice my hair smells, how good it feels to be here with me.
I’ll talk to you too…might even tell you stuff no one else will ever know.
Yes, all of your body excites me, but we won’t even make it to bed if you do not stimulate my mind first. If you do this right, chances are the moment I see you, I won’t be able to keep my hands off you.
Mix and match.
If you use this advice and, most important of all, you combine several elements at once…dude, I won’t ever let you go.
If you use your tongue on my neck and add some delicious words on my ear; if you rub your pelvic bone against me while your hands massage my scalp; if your tongue tastes my belly and your fingers bring a tingle to my inner tights… I’m going to worship you.
You see, you’ll make me feel as if more than one lover was tending to my every need. You’ll make me so proud. I hope you’ll do your best to stop being the kind of lover who is only a dick.
Let’s make sure we never again have to visit Pounding Town.
Thank you so much for reading. This is a guest post from me, GB Rogut. For more from me, subscribe to get my e-mails on Medium and follow my Substack, Musings, here.