Science Explains the Top Four Sexual Techniques to Enhance Her Pleasure
3,017 women reported the sexual techniques they used most often to enhance their sexual pleasure
It’s almost cliché of our culture to assume that men are always looking for a magic bullet during sex — a little button they can press to change the game, and turn on God Mode for being a superstar lover.
Unfortunately for us (and even more unfortunately for women), life doesn’t work that way. Sex is a complicated act, further complicated by the revolving door of diverse and dissimilar partners in today’s sexually liberated world.
Various partners mean different drives, different bodies, different desires, and different sexual appetites. But while this is true, oftentimes, we have more similarities than we do differences — and if we identify the similarities, it’s easier to understand what other people want.
Reading through piles of scientific literature (as I do), it should come as no surprise that a lot of what’s written is extremely male-focused. You can tell it’s written by men, as it’s also extremely anatomy-focused. In both scientific literature and online advice columns, you’ll hear plenty about anatomical parts, but very, very little about techniques.
A plurality of the published scientific works that discuss the sexuality of women shares this aspect with porn — both are often hyper-focused on the genitals, so much so that other aspects that are vital to the sex experience, like atmosphere, are missed.
Can you name one memorable porn set where the focal point wasn’t public sex?
Most people can’t.
I think I can name one, maybe.
And that’s because most porn focuses on the objects of our sexual desire, rather than the activities done with those objects.
Stop and imagine a porn movie that didn’t show any penetration. The male gaze would lose something magical if being able to visualize the genitals was interrupted like this. And since 75% of porn consumers are men, and at least in 2021, only 2% of paid porn subscriptions were for women who wanted to watch.
This is such a low number that historically, payment processors would automatically flag women’s names as possible fraud whenever they got a credit card transaction for a porn subscription.
As you may know, on a whole, men are extremely visual creatures.
But how often does this leave our partners dissatisfied? And could learning different approaches possibly make us better lovers?
The answers are, frequently and of course.
Whenever we break new ground in life, it’s important to start by forming new language to describe what we’re doing. Humans think with language just about all the time, and having the words to describe what we’re doing helps us tremendously to understand it.
Fortunately for us, science has identified and named four sexual techniques that can be used to enhance a woman’s pleasure in the bedroom.
Even better, the researchers of the pilot survey asked women which types of stimulation and penetration techniques they used on themselves, so they could understand what works and what doesn’t work, be it with a partner or alone.
Men can learn a lot about women’s sex by understanding what women do when they’re by themselves and no one is looking. Men can learn a lot about women’s sex by exploring sex that isn’t male-focused.
The study, titled Women’s techniques for making vaginal penetration more pleasurable: Results from a nationally representative study of adult women in the United States (a mouthful, I know), sought to help us better understand what makes sex pleasurable for women, solving the problem of the dissatisfied vast majority of women who struggle to climax through penetration alone.
The survey asked 3,017 women 90 different things about their sex lives, and the OMGYES Pleasure Report was provided. The ages ranged from 18 all the way up to 93 years old and spanned the gamut in terms of social and economic classes, gender identity, ethnicity, and more.
The goal was to see what techniques were used most often for great sex among women, both alone or with partners.
And with that, science finally gave a name to four of my favorite sexual techniques, so now I know what to call them.
These four stood out among the rest as overwhelmingly popular. They are angling, rocking, shallowing, and pairing.