What’s the Whole Point of Your Relationship, Anyways?
The goal of a relationship should be to live together…
One of the things that used to drive me crazy about my old relationships was the feeling of stagnation. It’s a sign and symbol of the death of a relationship in progress. The slow, aching death that doesn’t just strike suddenly. Sometimes, the opposite is worse — you slowly drift apart, going through the motions until one day you wake up and realize how deeply unhappy you are.
I’ll never forget one relationship I was in with a person I cared about very much. I was merely twenty-one when the relationship began, full of hope and full of naivety. I thought I knew better than anyone else in the world. I landed my dream relationship with an incredible woman. She was smart, funny, stunning, beautiful, and responsible. I respected her.
But as the years went on, we slowly drifted apart. I was an insecure young guy who didn’t take things seriously when it suited my ego. It’s an ugly trait that I see everywhere now that I’ve grown and learned better.
As time went on, it began to feel like my relationship didn’t have a point. There was no purpose. And in retrospect, I now see that the purpose I thought relationships were supposed to have was hedonistic. I thought the whole point was to settle down and enjoy yourself with someone you loved and cared about.
I stupidly believed that everything would be rosy once that happened.
Hint: it wasn’t.
In fact, it was the opposite of rosy. I grew tired and restless. I wanted more. I started noticing other women wherever I went, but I felt conflicted about this. I started taking her for granted and spending more time with my friends than with my girlfriend.
She was always going to be there, right?
I would go out with friends and drink until the early morning hours. Having fun was my number one priority, like most young Americans. I was flagrantly, painfully irresponsible.
Looking back, I can only ask myself, “What was the point of it all?”
I think this is an important question that we should all be asking ourselves. And it’s a question that virtually nobody I know asks themselves. We sometimes begin to just float along the course of life with someone attached to us, and we forget our main purpose.
Did you know your relationship has a purpose? Well, if not, I’m here to inform you, that it does. Your relationship has a purpose whether you’ve acknowledged it or not.